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Guys are notorious for always wanting to get it on. So, it might strike a woman as odd when their man isn’t in the mood as often as he once was. Their first instinct might be to start thinking there’s someone else on the side or that he’s no longer into them. Sex expert Tracey Cox says other factors might be at play, five, in fact, and they all have to do with what’s going on with his body or within his mind.
- Erectile Difficulties – There are few things that’ll make a man feel less like a man than when Big Johnson is nowhere to be found, and Little Willy grabs the headlines. It’s a mood and ego killer and can be a major source of insecurity and mental trauma. It’s worth seeing a urologist to make sure you’re medically sound and do something about it if you’re not. If it’s mental, get to a professional and get your head straight so other parts can get straight, too
- Low Self-Esteem – Contrary to what some might believe, this isn’t just a female issue. Body image issues, feelings of attractiveness and self-worth, and depression over physical factors can play a role in bedroom desire and confidence
- Differing Libidos – It could be as simple as you and your partner being on different sexual pages as you age. Talk it out and find a common ground. The worst thing that can happen is ignoring the issue and letting imaginations run wild thinking the worst
- Past Experiences – Everyone’s life experience is different, and no one was brought up the same way or had the same dating experiences. Still, people tend to hold others up to the standards they’ve experienced without understanding where it was their partner came from. It could be that what appears to be sexual disinterest is really someone being overly careful not to cross some line because that’s what their past experience has trained them to do. Talk about it, and figure out where both of you stand…and get it out of the way
- Stress – This is a big one, and it’s not hard to figure out. If there’s something bothering him, he’s going to be distracted by it. The bigger the problem…the bigger the potential sexual barrier
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